Living on Purpose – Discover Your Path!
We’re continuing our story from last week about our misfit bird. When we left off last week, our orphan bird had just discovered who she was and where she belonged. She realized that the reason she didn’t fit in with the other ducks was because she was never a duck; she was an eagle! Eagles aren’t meant to swim, they’re built to fly. Eagles aren’t meant to live on low ground, they are designed for high ground.
Our eagle also made another important discovery while talking to her new found friend. She discovered that although most birds fly together, in numbers–in flocks, but the eagle is a proud bird and dares to fly alone. The eagle is a fearless bird with great strength and courage. She does not lean on others but can take independent action and chart her own course.
Now that our orphan eagle knows who she is, the next step was to walk the path of an eagle. To dare to fly high. To chart her own course and become who she was meant to be. And that is exactly what she did!
What about you? Have you chosen your path? Have you charted your own course in life? Or are you just wandering aimlessly?
There are basically 4 types of people when it comes to life’s purpose and searching for it.
In his article, How to find your path in life, Raf Adams, describes 4 types of people when it comes searching for life’s purpose.
- I don’t have a clue, I never thought about it, I don’t know, I don’t care and life’s purpose and path is BS.
- I’ve heard about it, I’m confused, lost and insecure, I want to find it but I don’t know how.
- I’ve taken actions to find my path and purpose but I’m still struggling, I don’t know how to make the right choices to help me find where I am supposed to be?
- I’m on my path in life and my purpose is evolving as I grow older, I am contributing and giving back, and I never stop learning on the life journey.
Which group do you belong to?
If you are in group 1, I urge you to reconsider. Think of your life as a great novel being written by the choices and experiences of each day. At the end of this novel, what will be the story? If you want to control the narrative of your life’s story, you must first identify your purpose and your path. Otherwise, your story will just be a collection of words with no meaning.
Five Tips to Help you discover your path in life
If you are in groups 2 to 4 from above, here are 5 tips you can use to help direct you in your journey to discover your path:
1. Trust Your Gut
The path of your purpose will be filled with uncertainties. You will not always know what to do. Sometimes, it will be difficult to determine which choice is right and which is wrong. When faced with such uncertainties, remember your core values. Let your values be your guide when you face uncertainties in the journey.
Your values are what creates that “gut feeling” we all experience when making decisions. Trust that feeling and go in the direction it’s pointing. It may not lead you in the easy path, but your gut will always lead in the path that is right for you.
2. Cultivate Patient Endurance
When you begin in the path of your purpose, it’s important to be patient because as King Salomon says, “For everything, there is a season”. I can’t think of a better example of this then the process of agriculture. To get a harvest in agriculture, you must first prepare the ground, then plant your seed, then give it enough water and sunshine to grow. Then you must wait.
No matter where you are in your path, you can always benefit from cultivating more patience. If things are not working out the way you anticipated, don’t quit. Just keep nourishing the seed, be patient and wait. When you feel like giving up, let the words below inspire you to keep going:
“Patience is the only true foundation on which to make one’s dreams come true.” – Franz Kafka
3. Don’t Focus On the Path of Others
Everyone has to chose their own path. When you are in yours, don’t get distracted by other people. Sometimes you will feel like other people are reaching their goals or dreams a lot faster than you. You may try your very best, but still feel like you’re behind in the “race”. If you’re having such feelings, it’s because you’re focusing on the wrong objective.
There is no competition in following your purpose. The goal isn’t for you to get there before anyone else. You are the only contender on this race, therefore it is impossible to lose. You just have to finish! Don’t focus on others in their path of the journey. Stay the course on yours and you will win your prize.
4. Be Flexible to Change
In your chosen path of life, you will encounter many obstacles. Sometimes you will see them coming and other times you’ll stumble upon them. When you see them coming, it’ll be easy to plan a course of action. However, when you didn’t see them coming, you may stumble and fall.
In such situations, it’s important to adapt a growth mindset. When you focus on a growth mindset, you embrace all the things that feel threatening: the challenges, struggles, criticisms, and setbacks. When you embrace the tough stuff, you open yourself up to fully realize your potential and all that you can be.
A growth mindset will help you become more flexible and adaptable to stay on the course no matter what comes your way.
5. Be Your Best Ally
You will make many mistakes in your journey of purpose. When you feel the weight of your “not-so-great” choices weighing down on you, I want you to become your best ally. Instead of beating on yourself, learn from your mistake, forgive yourself and move on. There will be plenty of other critics out there, don’t need to join them. Instead, chose to become your biggest fan and greatest cheerleader.
Being your best ally won’t protect you from the consequences of your choices. It just won’t add to your sorrow. The consequence is going to be hard enough, you don’t need to punish yourself on top of that. When you struggle to forgive yourself, remember the words of Shakespeare, “To err is human…”
I started this series with a story about a little orphan bird who through an unfortunate tragedy, lost it’s identity. This bird struggled a lot in her journey as a young eagle and had much difficulties fitting in.
In part one of the series, Living on Purpose – Discover Your Wings, our orphan bird discovered that she could fly. For the first time in her life, she felt an overwhelming sense of joy and peace. For the first time in her life, she didn’t feel out of place. It’s as if she had found the place she was looking for all her life. For the first time in her life, she felt at home.
In part two of the series, Living on Purpose -Discover Your Place, our orphan bird discovered who she was. She was an eagle. Once she understood who she was, it became clear to her why she didn’t fit in with the other birds; she was an eagle! Eagles weren’t meant to swim, they’re built to fly. Eagles aren’t meant to live on low ground, they made designed for high ground. Finally, it all made sense.
In part three, my goal was to inspire you to discover your path. No matter where you are in your journey, I want to encourage you to stay the course. The reward isn’t in the end, it’s in the path. It’s in your willingness to get back up when you fall and to celebrate when you soar. The path is the reward. So, make a decision to live on purpose today and to stay on course no matter what comes your way.
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Until next time, remember to Dream Big, Take Risks and Become the CEO of You!