4 Tips to Overcome the Fear of Criticism
Overcoming the Fear of Criticism: Embracing Your Power in Optometry and Beyond
“I don’t like criticism, but I welcome it because it makes me stronger.” — James Justin
Hello, Friend! I’m thrilled you’re here! Today, I want to dive into one of the most common fears we face—criticism. And not just any kind of criticism, but the kind that holds us back from realizing our full potential, both in business and in life.
Criticism is something we all face, and as entrepreneurs and CEOs of our own lives, it can feel particularly daunting. Whether you’re a new practice owner or have been running your optometry business for years, the fear of being judged can sometimes overshadow your boldest ambitions.
Why Do We Fear Criticism?
Did you know that one of the biggest fears out there is the fear of public speaking? But why are so many people afraid of it? What is the root of that fear? I think most people aren’t really afraid of speaking—they fear the critical judgment of the public.
In my own journey, I was once paralyzed by this fear. For years, I stayed hidden in the shadows, avoiding the spotlight at all costs. I didn’t think I was smart enough, articulate enough, or even “thin enough” to stand in front of people. Sound familiar? The fear of criticism can keep you small, but it doesn’t have to.
How I Almost Missed My Calling
There was a time when I was asked to speak to a group of women. My immediate reaction? “No way! I can’t do this!” I was ready to do everything in my power to get out of that so-called death trap. But the event organizer wasn’t someone who took no for an answer. She told me that everyone must face their fears eventually, and this was my moment to do so.
When the day finally came, I was mortified. I had prepared a talk titled “How to Become a Woman of Excellence,” yet I didn’t feel excellent at all. The room seemed dark, and my hands were shaking. But then, something magical happened. In an instant, all my fear disappeared. The room brightened, and I felt connected to every person in that audience.
It was as if another version of me emerged—one that I didn’t even know existed. She was confident, fearless, and able to deliver the message with passion. When I finished, the audience stood up and applauded. That moment changed my life. Since then, I’ve spoken at hundreds of events and even released a music CD. I often wonder, what if I had let the fear of criticism stop me? Where would I be now?
The Science Behind Criticism
Why does criticism hit us so hard? Psychologists explain that our brains are wired to dwell on negative feedback more than positive praise. In fact, it takes five positive events to make up for the psychological impact of one negative event. Research by Roy Baumeister, a professor of psychology, shows that this tendency to focus on the negative is deeply ingrained in our brains.
So, if you feel hurt when someone criticizes you, know that you’re not alone. It’s natural. But here’s the thing: you don’t have to let it stop you from achieving greatness.
4 Tips to Overcome the Fear of Criticism
Marie Forleo, a successful entrepreneur and motivational speaker, offers some excellent advice on how to deal with criticism:
- We Are All Judged and Criticized
The truth is, no matter what you do, people will judge you. The bigger the game you play, the more criticism you’ll receive. So, embrace it as part of the journey. - Expect Criticism
Once you understand that criticism is inevitable, it loses its sting. If you’re pushing boundaries and striving for excellence, expect criticism to follow. - Listen to the Right Voices
Not all criticism is created equal. Some opinions are irrelevant, while others can help you grow. Learn to discern which feedback to listen to and which to ignore. - Most Criticism is Irrelevant
Often, people criticize from a place of their own insecurity. Don’t let their issues become your burden. Focus on your mission and your goals.
Marie ends her advice with a powerful quote from Teddy Roosevelt:
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena… who strives valiantly… who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause… so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”
Embrace Your Power, Face Your Fears
In the world of optometry, running your own practice can feel like being in the arena Roosevelt describes. It takes courage, persistence, and a willingness to face criticism head-on. You may encounter naysayers, but remember that they are not the ones taking risks, innovating, or striving to make a difference.
The road to success is not without its bumps, but it’s a journey worth taking. Whether you’re facing fears in your personal life, your career, or your practice, it’s time to confront them. Criticism will come, but it doesn’t have to hold you back.
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Visit optometrydivas.com/join and let’s get started! Together, we can overcome fear, embrace criticism, and build the life and practice you deserve.
Until next time, remember to dream big, take risks, and become the CEO of YOU!
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