How flexible are you? For me, it depends — on how I feel, how much fear or resistance I have about something based on past experience, how attached I am to a particular outcome, and various other factors.
However, as I look throughout my life (now and in the past), I realize that the situations, relationships, and experiences that caused me the greatest stress and frustration, are almost always the places where I was not being flexible. On the flip side, the more flexible I was, the more peace of mind I experienced and the quicker situations resolved. Is this true for you as well?
Today, more than ever, we are challenged to be flexible — in our careers, our businesses, our relationships, and in every other important aspect of our lives. However, due to our own fear, arrogance, resistance, stress, and obsession with being right, we often end up being inflexible to our own detriment and to the frustration of those around us and the demise of our dreams. That is why it’s important to be aware of dream killer #4 – Fixed Mindset.
Dream Killer #4 – Fixed Mindset
Having a fixed mindset, causes you to have a rigid attitude in life. This kind of rigidity weakens your resilience overtime similar to how muscular atrophy causes progressive muscle weakness. No matter who you are or where you are in life, you’ll experience good and bad seasons. Flexibility in thinking and action will help you accept changes in life and help you become resilient in pursuing your dreams.
Here are 3 tips you can use to help you become more flexible in life:
– Embrace Change
Change never seems natural or easy. We naturally repel it and often want to retreat back into our comfort zone. Because we repel change, we sometimes go through life without ever living up to our full potential our allowing orselves to express who we really are. Change is an inevitable part of life and no matter how happy we are with how things are currently, life will always change.
Whether you accept it or not, everything is constantly changing – society, culture, your friends and family, your body, everything. Embrace change by allowing yourself to feel the fear without letting it stop you.
– Take a different route to work once per week
Switching your route will help reset your mind and condition it to accept new things. It’s an easy way to help yourself transition into a more flexible mindset. Changing scenery in something as simple as your commute can help you become more flexible.
Overall, a change of scenery helps get the gears of life moving again. If you try to have new experiences daily, it will keep your dreams and passions alive. So, whether it is the moving your home, attending a new Meet Up group, a mom’s club, starting a new practice, or trying a new restaurant with your friends—newness provides the fuel for life.
– Read a book outside of your interest once per year
I like books on personal and business development, but once a year I pick a random subject to read about. This past week, I’ve been reading about snakes, an animal which I loathe. But reading about it helps keep my mind open to learning new things.
In reading about snakes, I learned that they changed skin every so often. I also learned that most snakes are not villainous and they aren’t trying to kill me. Although, I’m still not really convinced about that, but it was good to read it nonetheless. You may ask, how does reading about snakes help you keep your mind open, Lauretta?
Well, when I read that snakes change skin often, it reminded me to look at my “skin” – My beliefs and values and see if they needed changing. The truth is just like a snake, we all outgrow certain beliefs and values. However if we don’t shed those “skins”, we will limit our growth, development and success. So you see, even snakes, which I loathe, can give me a new perspective.
Although, we should be firm in our core values and convictions, passionate about our beliefs, and clear about our intentions; I believe we can at the same time be flexible enough to make significant changes and be open to new ideas along the way. That is why in this article, I gave you 3 tips on how you can overcome dream killer #4. If you practice them, you will become more flexible each day and that will keep your passion for your dreams alive.
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Stay tuned next week for dream killer #5 – Discouragement. Until then, remember to Dream Big, Take Risks and become the CEO of YOU™!