Don’t Just Make a Living, Make a Life! Here’s How…
What does “Making a living” mean?
It simply means that you are earning your means. You are making enough money to sustain your family and your own aspirations. When you make a living, you spend most of you time focusing on your basic needs; needs such as food, water, shelter and security. Securing basic needs is something everyone does as second nature because our survival demands so. Quite simple and straight forward isn’t it?
What does “Making a Life” mean?
Now this is where things get a little interesting. You all are pretty smart and know what making a life means. You don’t need me to tell you that making a life is important. I’m just here to remind you of what you already know.
Making a life means to live according to your values and to contribute to the greater good. We are fortunate to live in a country where our basic needs are provided for. Most of us don’t have to worry about what we’re going to eat or where we’re going to sleep on a daily basis. This puts us in a position to give back and enrich the life of others.
Here are 5 Tips to go from “Making a Living” to “Making a Life”
1. Give without expecting anything back.
This is an easy one for most of us women. Giving is what we do, we are built for it. We give to our children, our mates, our extended family and friends, our community, and our profession. Today I want to challenge you to give something you can never get back – Your time!
The most expensive gift we can ever give is our time, whether it’s listening to a friend, watching our children in a school play or going on a date with our spouses. Our time is priceless and when we share it with others we are truly giving them the one thing we can never get back! If you want to make a life, give of your time! But do so wisely. One way to do that is to live each day according to you core values.
2. Receive without feeling the need to repay
This one is not as easy for us women. It’s one thing to give back after you receive, but it’s another to accept the gift with just a thank you and nothing more. I remember facing this dilemma one day checking out at my local grocery store. When the cashier finished adding my items in the register, I pulled out my debit card to pay. Before I could insert the card, she told me these words, “You don’t need to pay, the person before you paid it forward.”
I had a dilemma – how can I accept this gift? Should I repay this kindness by paying forward as well or should I just say thank you and leave the store? What should I do? After a few minutes of deep contemplation, I decided to just receive the gift. I put my card back in my purse and took the groceries and left. Sometimes, we need to receive without feeling the need to repay.
3. Forgive yourself and others
To “for-give” means to give forward. It’s really that simple. It also means to cancel the balance owed on a debt. When someone make a mistake that hurts us or others, we often imprison them for the crime committed. Wanting payment for a debt is normal, it’s part of our need for justice. However, this becomes a problem when the prison is your own heart.
When you refuse to forgive your turn your heart into the prison, and the prisoner is you. That’s why it’s good to forgive. It’s not for the other person, it’s for you. It’s even more important to forgive yourself because when you don’t forgive yourself, you pay double the sentence. If you want to make a life, you must learn to forgive yourself and others.
4. Appreciate the little things
People naturally feel excited during big life events – graduations, weddings, newborn babies, first homes, job promotions, and so on – and I don’t mean to diminish their importance.
However, oftentimes when we reminisce, it is enjoying the small things in life, those everyday moments that have truly made up the fabric of our lives.
While goals and dreams are certainly beneficial, an insatiable desire to have more can leave you feeling like you are less than. Constantly striving to get further will cause you to feel as though you are falling behind.
This type of mindset takes the focus off of what you have or what you have done and puts it on a place of lack. However, a grateful heart will allow you to see the good in what is currently going on in your life. So remember to appreciate the little things as they are what make life worth living.
5. Dance every time you get the chance
I think the lyrics from the popular song by Lee Ann Womack say this best…
I hope you never lose your sense of wonder
You get your fill to eat but always keep that hunger
May you never take one single breath for granted
God forbid love ever leave you empty handed
I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean
Whenever one door closes I hope one more opens
Promise me that you’ll give fate the fighting chance
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
I hope you dance
Are you living the life you want? Are you happy with where you are in your profession? Are you receiving as much as you’re giving? If you answered yes to these questions, congratulations! You are living your best life!
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